He’s got health problems that are getting worse by the day. He’s distant, grumpy, non-communicative. He hates his job and his unhappiness is spilling over into family life. The kids feel it. You feel it.

Your partner is off path and you want to help steer him back to his true self, to the work he came here to do. But how? You can barely manage your own career and taking care of the kids. And if he quits his job, you could lose the house.

Consider the possibility that you two have a soul agreement. When you met and fell in love, you were setting your agreement into motion. It went like this: “We agree that when one of us forgets who we really are and what we came to this lifetime to accomplish, the other person will remind the one who gets off path. We agree to help each other keep on path.”

Now, here you are, living your wonderful life, raising children, buying houses and cars, getting benefits, and completely forgetting the great work that’s still buried in your soul, the work you came here to do. And everybody around you, on an unconscious level, knows it. Even the kids.

So little things happen. You get colitis, you gain 20 pounds, you have chest pains or insomnia. Your soul knows you’re off track, and that’s how it speaks to you. But you don’t listen. You go to your doctor who prescribes something to quiet your symptoms and you go back to work. At work you’re fighting with most everybody and the politics are “killing” you. At home, there’s no energy left for anyone.
Is there hope? You bet. Think of it this way: you may be playing the role of mother, father or breadwinner right now, but that’s just a costume your soul is wearing for a few big scenes in this lifetime. The higher self came here to dance, to use its gifts and talents to make the world a better place – and to rise above the pettiness of our pitiful thinking.

Stop encouraging this pitiful thinking, otherwise known as “desperation.” Look at the depth and breadth of your partner’s soul journey. Meditate on his life journey and ask to feel the vibration of his path so you’ll understand how to guide him through this transition. See his innate gifts, and help him remember what he came here to do.

That’s how you would want to be supported if you were off path, and that’s what you agreed to do before this lifetime journey began.
So let’s get to it. Try this daily affirmation: “I am helping my partner own up to his greatness and do what he came here to do. That’s our agreement.”

Empower and don’t destroy. Inspire him to think of new solutions rather than sending negative thoughts or feelings his way, which will only hinder progress. Ask open-ended questions about his dreams. Tell him he has a $5 million gift, but he must use the money to launch his career in a meaningful new direction. What would he do?

Be clear on your own path and what you came here to do. Be a model of someone who is doing great work in the world, using innate talents to create abundance and make the world a better place.

Most of all, laugh together. In the worst of times, we can raise energy with our humor, gratitude and sweetness for each other. By doing this, we create new space for attracting solutions we hadn’t thought of. Remember, once he gets on his true path, he’ll have renewed energy for you and the kids.

Here are some questions to ask yourself:
1. How can I help my partner own up to his innate gifts and realize that he must use them in his work to be happy?

2. What were his good inner qualities that I fell in love with, and how can we bring them back to the surface by finding the right work?

3. What is it that I know he came here to do?

4. Who was he when he was young and still dreaming?

5. What birth path is he on and what does that mean for his career? (See the Jan/Feb 2008 issue of Nexus, or visit nexuspub.com, for more birth path info.)

6. What energetic cycle is he in right now and how do I help him move through it? (For more information on that, visit www.CareerIntuitive.org).

7. Is my partner’s work helping the world in any way? If not, how can it be tweaked so that it does?

8. What is the most powerful thing I can do or say to help him get back on path?

Author and Career Intuitive Sue Frederick’s work has been featured in Yoga Journal, Natural Health and Fit Yoga, and at venues like The Crossings Retreat Center in Austin. She’s the author of Dancing at Your Desk and BrilliantDay. For more information, visit www.CareerIntuitive.org or call 303-939-8574.